Discovering Something Beautiful

The past few weeks have been an amazing and uplifting experience for me. I have been using this blog as a way to get out feelings that I otherwise would have issues coping with, and didn't exactly cope with them in a very healthy fashion.

Here are some things that I have changed in myself in order to be WAY happier:

I let go: I stopped accusing others for my unhappiness, I stopped making people who don't even care about me a priority. I made myself my own priority
I realized what I have: I am literally the luckiest girl in the world. I have been given the most caring, understanding, loving and supportive friends in the world, and I have realized that they are my true family. Life with my real family hasn't exactly offered the amount of support I've needed, but instead of dwelling on the lack of nurturing behavior from them, I've accepted it and moved on to be thankful for the people who do provide this behavior on a regular basis. This has opened my eyes to the most important people in my life, and ones who I know will stick around =)
I quit my bad habits: Negativity does not exist in my life anymore. I have completely changed my attitude and the way I look at EVERYTHING. This has completely changed my outlook on myself and other people. It's amazing how much happier you can be. Instead of looking at a picture of a thin model and thinking 'Oh I wish I looked like her' think, 'Oh she's gorgeous! But I'm working toward a different kind of body'
I created good habits: Running! Yoga! I replaced coffee with green tea (for the most part) I have opened up to people instead of shutting them out. I am 100% ME around people. Why would you edit who you are around people who aren't even relevant to your life?? That's WAY too much to worry to think about.
I've let myself feel again: If I'm upset about something, I'll let myself cry, but before that I will evaluate if it's really worth this reaction. Then when the crying period is over I give myself a pep talk: 'It's ok, because this was meant to happen. This reaction obviously means you care about this situation, instead of being upset about it, be happy that you're learning something and try to make it better.' On a different note, when I'm happy I really REALLY show it! I'll text a friend and tell them, I'll listen to happy song, I'll smile at strangers.

I have completely restructured my life and the way I think. I've been trying to do this for a very long time, but this time I finally stuck to it and am so glad I did. Some advice to people who need to do the same: Let go of anyone or anything bringing you down, but be grateful it happened. Eat healthier and start exercising< this is what I'm studying in school but now I am completely aware of what a change it makes since I've put it into practice!  Don't edit yourself and talk to your friends about how you are feeling!

giving up and moving on

rejection is a way of life, you give up and move on. rejection in general normally includes: school, jobs, friends, the opposite (or same I suppose) gender-- it happens. 

I didn't get the job. 

my way of coping includes tequila, or rum in this case, and formulating a plan. 

Rejection always provides the unique opportunity to get better. 

Don't get even, get better. 

The better you get, the more they'll regret it 

create power

do you ever see those girls walking down the street who really seem to know what they're doing? the girls who look at their destination and don't get distracted from it? you've seen 'em. and you should look up to them. 

we all recognize this girl by now, 

this is rooney mara, star of The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo 

she's got it going for her, she got in front of a camera, ass-naked, multiple times and showed the world that she is an amazingly talented actress.

she's got guts

so tell me, are you going to get distracted by what other people think/say, or will you put on your shades and keep on walking?

olivia

just say no

so here's the thing, women tend to be more sympathetic than guys, we therefore are more likely to say 'yes' to things we don't feel like doing. well. those days are OVER and this is why:

people are more likely to take advantage of your kindness

you will come across as weak to your peers

you get distracted from your path

you weren't put on this planet to please everyone you meet

charity and helping those in need--YES--do it, so few people do, but when a creepy guy is being very aggressive at the bar, tell him off. 

this guy needs to chill, it's clearly a girls' night. 

olivia

let's hear it

holaaaa to the girls who don't mind staying up late and waking up early, the girls who party hard but keep their grace, the girls who refuse to fall into a man's lap just because he gives her attention, the girls who see through bitches and assholes, the girls who don't show pain after wearing heels all day; I know you're out there, so I want to hear from you. if you have a tidbit of advice, a graceful mishap, a short story, anything about being an awesome female--I want to hear about it! there are girls in the world who are lost and need our help, so let's put on the mask and save the day. 

I mean, we can't all have superhero man candy to keep us out of the rain, so we might as well take care of ourselves.

bdarnell@gmail.com

olivia

things to die for

you want to be successful, right? I'll give you the basics and you decide what to do with them: 

sleep

money

a killer makeup collection

a brain

6 pairs of 4-inch stilettos 

'do not fuck with me' attitude

a piercing stare

wit

passion

creativity

language

a heart

perseverance

power 

style

throw in a tight ass and a really good push up bra and girl, you've got it made. 

this girl has it all 

olivia

heaven and hell

dear girls,

actions speak louder than words. always say what you mean, but also, mean what you do. 

life is beautiful, take a moment to enjoy it. 

today make a goal for yourself and achieve it. 

tomorrow do something just for yourself

strive to make yourself beautiful--that's what people look at--the better you look, the better you feel. 

take a page out of her book. 

olivia